New Science: Your Thinking about Self-Control Is Backward

We often think of self-control as something we need to develop to be happy. If you can control your urge to slack off, your business will take off. Check your impulse to eat junk and you'll finally get fit. Get a handle on your emotions and see your relationships improve. Then you’ll be happy. 

But there’s a flaw with this thinking according to new science — it’s dead backward. 

The usual story about self-control 

Traditional self-control advice focuses on building up your capacity to do things you don’t naturally want to do. This is how influencers sell cold plunges, for example. But it’s not just online gurus who present self-control this way. Neuroscientists do too. Stanford’s Andrew Huberman, for instance, talks about ways to strengthen your “no-go circuit." All of them involve making yourself do mildly unpleasant things so you can strengthen your self-control.  

Please select this link to read the complete article from Inc.