From Spinning to Solving

After a few years in a new role, Allison's relationship with her boss, Paul, deteriorated. In our coaching conversations, Allison would rehash a series of stories about times she had felt slighted or undervalued.

After Allison repeatedly circled back to the same stories, I realized she wasn't processing her feelings — she was just ruminating: letting her mind spin in her hurt, rather than making a choice about how she wanted to respond.

I can relate to Allison (name changed), and I'm sure you can too. Getting stuck in our frustrations, hurts, worries and fears is a very human experience. As much as we would like to think of ourselves as rational creatures at work, we're just as susceptible to rumination at work as in our personal lives.

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